sorry, i mythologized your boyfriend. yeah i took him and a few other boyfriends and merged them together with local folklore and mystic elements into one legendary figure. he’s going to be really hard to pin down historically. sorry about that. I can make you his consort in some stories if that helps.
Everything is like âQUEER historyâ and âList of QUEER young adult booksâ or âTop 10 QUEER moviesâ and queer this and queer that and for the love of god please just say LGBT.
But queer is more inclusive
And faster to pronounce if you are talking instead of writing.
Itâs not more inclusive, and if your excuse of using a slur as a blanket term is âitâs faster to sayâ, GENUINELY what is wrong with you
Itâs called economĂa del lenguaje.
Itâs also the respected academic term?? The acronym isnât static and itâs usage is varied by things like generational difference, location, and knowledge of the community. Even just in the U.S. in the last few decades the common usage gone from GLBT to LGBT to LGBTQ, to LGBTQA/LGBTQIA/LGBTQIAP/etc (Which, let me tell you as someone who has given presentations in the past using these updated acronyms, are all real mouthfulls), to LGBT+.
Also yes, queer is more inclusive! Especially coming at it from an academic standpoint, people didnât always use or identify with the terms we use now and you canât always try to cram them into our modern perceptions of sexuality. We can argue for years about whether a famous historical figure was gay or bisexual or straight and trans or whatever, but if we can all agree that they were somehow queer then using that term allows us to move past the debate and into productive discussion. And not everybody everywhere shares the same terms for sexual and gender identity, or even the same concepts of those things, so queer really is a more inclusive term in a lot of cases.
Like yeah if youâre talking specifically about gay or trans people you can just say gay or transgender, but if youâre talking about more than one identity or someone who doesnât conform to our perceptions of âLGBT,â or a person or people whose identity you donât know, queer is just the better word.
âThatâs SO gayâ, âOh my god, youâre not a LESBIAN, are you?â
Your words are slurs, too. Why do you get your words, but I donât get mine? What makes you so special?
Iâm here, Iâm queer, go fuck yourself.
queer is not a slur, stop drinking the TERF koolaid
every time one of you fools spout about âqueer is a slurâ a terf laughs because their fucking plan to make that word âtabooâ is fucking working you dipshit.
I did not get my degree in queer literature for you all to keep pulling this bullshit.
baby gays,,,, i beg of you to learn your queer history and stop listening to terf bullshit
every single one of our labels has been used as a slur against us.
terfs and -phobes are always going to try and hurt us with what we identify as. but the fact remains these are OUR labels and always have been.
weâre here, weâre queer, get used to it.
I donât know if this is just because Iâm not American but Iâve never heard queer used as a slur. Ever. Meanwhile gay was the insult in the 2000s here. Everything you didnât like was âsoo gayâ. Queer wasnât even a word most of us knew back then.
It just baffled me that people would think an identifier is automatically a slur just because someone uses it to mock someone. If we did that gay would be a slur. Stupid would be a slur. Autistic would be a slur.
The reason people are upset about the word queer is that itâs a unifying term. You can say youâre queer and all people will know is that youâre part of the community. But you canât say youâre LGBT, you have to say youâre gay or trans or ace. They donât want you to be ambiguously queer. They want you to say which kind of queer you are so they can decide whether youâre undesirable.
yeah in the 90s and early 2000s kids would call each other âgayâ as an insult. But no one ties themselves in knots over whether âgayâ is a slur. So yeah, please ffs learn your history.
They want you to say which kind of queer you are so they can decide whether youâre undesirable.
When you insist that queer is a slur, you are giving the power to define the term to the bigots and homophobes, instead of to the people to whom it applies.
I feel like a lot of people don’t quite get what a butler is. The role tends to get rounded off to ‘male servant’ pretty regularly in some media, whereas actually butlers are typically not just servants but chief servants. The butler was generally in charge of either all male servants or just all servants, period, in the household of an aristocrat or other very wealthy person. This meant that butlers have often been fairly powerful and influential people, and sometimes even had a manservant or two of their own.
(Also, fun fact: Mary Roberts Rinehart, the early 20th century mystery writer who is widely credited with popularizing the whole ‘the butler did it’ trope was nearly murdered by one of her own servants, a chef whom she had passed over for promotion to butler. He came at her with a pistol, but it jammed, allowing her chauffeur time to wrestle it away and restrain him.)
You didn’t answer the key question things brings up: did she popularize the trope before or after the would-be butler tried to kill her?
random, but I think the way people talk about abusers as hypercompetent, calculating manipulators that Know exactly what they’re doing makes it easier for people to get into abusive relationships
The people who abused me prolly had no idea what the fuck they were doing. It was still bad! I still don’t regret buggin out!! But I don’t think they had a secret wall covered in red string linking notes like “How to fuck up this person specifically”. Pretty sure they were in their own bubble the whole damn time, actually, and yeah, that does make it harder to recognize or get out of
By far